The statistics on church membership for young adults are depressing. Is there anything we can do to stem the tide of those who are dropping out of our churches in record numbers? See why Dr. Joshua Mears believes that mimicking Luther might help our youth.
— Nicole Balza
Nearly two-thirds of 18- to 29-year-olds in the United States say they have withdrawn from church involvement as an adult, even though they were active as a child or a teen (Barna Research).
As a Christian psychologist I examine this trend using theories from developmental psychology. Examining the natural course of adolescent psychological growth and development helps us explore additional variables involved. My hope is that this vantage point can assist us as we hold fast to the assurance that the Holy Spirit will help this generation one day declare, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Timothy 4:7).
The field of developmental psychology studies the changes that an individual goes through in life. Psychologists systematically break different age groups into stages and look at certain milestones or critical periods for attaining goals.
Be open to deep philosophical challenges that youth are examining as they sort through their own identity development.
Psychologist Erik Erikson categorized development stages for individuals from infancy to older adult. Let’s focus on two of Erikson’s stages of psychological development:
- Teenager: The stage when healthy individuals form their identity. There can be a great deal of role confusion during this stage, leading to experimenting and testing authority boundaries. Teens question: “Who am I?” “How do I fit in?” and “Where am I going in life?” They might also have a significant shift from seeing the world through the eyes of adults to placing an emphasis on social relationships with peers.
- Young adult: The stage when healthy individuals are relatively secure in their identity (vocational, ideological) and begin to pursue close relationships. In this stage, they are capable of forming and committing to more intimate, reciprocal relationships, such as marriage.
According to this model, beginning with teens and continuing on into young adulthood, a person’s central point of reference can shift from their parents to peer group. Adolescents seek autonomy and therefore struggle with obeying parents, teachers, and authority. Some might point to this rebellion as the problem, suggesting that rebellion is why so many young people walk away from the church. But the issue is more complex than that.
Remember that during adolescence, many forms of development are occurring all at once—physical, neurological, and moral. As a result, the above psychological development occurs simultaneously with moral development. Psychologist Lawrence Kohlberg defines three key stages of moral development:
- Preconventional: Punishment avoidance. This is the stage from toddler to pre-adolescence.
- Conventional: Fulfilling duties, upholding laws. Teenagers and young adults typically find them-selves in this stage, striving to meet the expectations of others.
- Postconventional: As young adults begin to move into mature adulthood, thinking patterns mature. Thanks to psychological development, young adults are able to use more of the prefrontal cortex in the brain, which enables executive functioning where they are capable of seeing cause-and-effect relationships and using abstract thinking. As a result, young people seek their own understanding of moral philosophical questions in life.
Religious identity development is just one subset of the exploration that is happening during the moral developmental stages. You can see the forms of development converging here: A desire to examine and question authority and an increased ability to reason in pursuit of understanding. Add to this what so-called experts say is healthy behavior in terms of religious identity development: being “unwilling to accept slogans blindly” and preferring to “consolidate his own spiritual identity in a way that will let him feel that his parents’ and teachers’ influence on his identity is as small as possible” (Fisherman, 1999).
This might seem jarring to those of us who hold to “this is most certainly true.” The stoutest of us Lutherans would do well to remember that Martin Luther exhibited the same psychological, moral, and spiritual development changes. Erik Erikson even wrote a biographical book, Young Man Luther, that examined this development.
Luther asked many “who am I” questions. He challenged authority and struggled with the way his father influenced him and pushed his career as a lawyer. But here is the essential point about Luther’s identity progression: Each time he found himself battling against the established institutions of the time, he relied on the foundation of Scripture. The truth was not in his own reason or thought. Luther was not redefining truth as our postmodern world encourages us to do. His point of reference for searching for truth and meaning was not an internal discovery. Rather, he was incessantly reading Scripture and asking, “What does this mean?” For this reason, Luther is an excellent role model for young people going through the various stages of development.
Embrace the challenge
This brings us back to the question: How can we help more young people stay in the faith and engage with other people of faith?
We should not be afraid of the tendencies for young people to question philosophical worldview questions as they progress within their identity and moral development. Churches and parents should embrace this timeframe filled with ideological confusion and exploration. Youth ministries should engage these deeper doctrinal issues and be willing to question the issues in our society, using Scripture as a guide. Young, struggling Christians need to have a place and a method for wrestling with life, just as Luther did, while returning to the secure base of Scripture. Help youth continue to rely on their catechesis, because their identity flows from being a redeemed child of God.
Here’s the challenge for the Lutheran church: Be open to deep philosophical challenges that youth are examining as they sort through their own identity development. The old, evil foe will continue to target young people as they navigate development. Understanding psychological and moral development can help us grasp what an opportunity we have to engage young people in deep and lasting ways.
Authors: Multiple authors
Volume 109, Number 05
Issue: May 2022
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